I recently saw a Facebook post by a Sean Connolly. In it words of wisdom a father might impart. This list contained some really great tidbits …
The first one to get angry loses.
Luck favors the prepared.
Never stop learning.
If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
Be conscious of your body language.
If you aren’t confident, fake it. It will come around.
Never lend anything you can’t afford to lose.
And last but not least …
“You can tell the size of the man by the size of the things that bother him.”
This last one stood out to me because of an inquiry I’d just received from a fan on my FB page the day before I saw this list. It’s a pretty common type of inquiry that goes something like this …
“What do you think of people/players/coaches/parents who …”
My first thought is often, “It doesn’t matter what I think.”
And my second is, “The situation is irrelevant.”
Don’t get me wrong. Typically, the complaint is totally valid based upon the situation communicated to me via message.
It’s usually something that I don’t agree with, something I wouldn’t personally do, something that IS less than ideal.
I get that.
And maybe we just need someone to acknowledge our right to feel however it is we’re feeling. Sometimes, we just need a place to vent that stuff out and that’s completely understandable and okay; good even, rather than keeping it all boiling within you.
At the end of the day, though, remember …
That less than ideal circumstance can also be a non-issue. It only becomes as big, or bothersome, as you allow it to be.
There will ALWAYS be something that isn’t perfect. No matter what level you’re at. No matter how much or how little experience you have. No matter how much or how little talent you have. There will always be something that challenges you.
Make it irrelevant. Move on. Get around it, over it, through it, crawl under it.
Don’t let your success depend on someone else changing. Ain’t nobody got time to wait around for them to “see the light” so you can finally reach your goals.
Just keep going 😉
Stacie Mahoe shares lessons learned from decades around the diamond. Enjoy her unique insights on softball and life from years as a player, coach, parent, and fan of the game.