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Not long ago I read Craig Harper’s list of The Fifty Success Habits. As I’ve stated before, success principles apply to just about anything, life, business, and even softball. As I read this article, I LOVED the points he shared and thought softball players (and coaches) needed to read some of these.
Here are the first 15 success habits Craig shared.
1. They look for and find opportunities where others see nothing.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Mindset and where you focus affect WHAT you see.
2. They find a lesson while others only see a problem.
Stacie’s Thoughts: So what if you make a mistake or fail, make sure you LEARN something from it!
3. They are solution focused.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Focusing on the problem doesn’t change the problem. Focusing on solutions gives you the opportunity to make positive change happen.
4. They consciously and methodically create their own success, while others hope success will find them.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Hope is not a strategy.
5. They are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by fear.
Stacie’s Thoughts: If you think the best in the game have no fear (and that’s why they’re better than you), you’re wrong.
6. They ask the right questions – the ones which put them in a productive, creative, positive mindset and emotional state.
Stacie’s Thoughts: In other words NOT, “What’s wrong with you?” or “Why can’t…”
7. They rarely complain (waste of energy). All complaining does is put the complainer in a negative and unproductive state.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Use the time and energy you have wisely 🙂
8. They don’t blame (what’s the point?). They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes (or lack thereof).
Stacie’s Thoughts: Looking outside yourself for reasons why things didn’t go your way may very well be your biggest problem.
9. While they are not necessarily more talented than the majority, they always find a way to maximise their potential. They get more out of themselves. They use what they have more effectively.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Everyone has weaknesses, everyone has strengths. The most successful people know how to make their strengths SO strong, their weaknesses don’t matter. (If you can hit the ball LONG all the time, so what if you can’t run fast?) Everyone has something they’re good at. Make sure your better than everyone else at YOUR strength.
10. They are busy, productive and proactive. While most are laying on the couch, planning, over-thinking, sitting on their hands and generally going around in circles, they are out there getting the job done.
11. They align themselves with like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team. They create win-win relationships.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Now days, so many players spend so much time NOT being part of a team, they MISS this lesson! Too many softball players (and even parents) only worry 3 about people …me, myself, and I.
12. They are ambitious; they want amazing – and why shouldn’t they? They consciously choose to live their best life rather than spending it on auto-pilot.
Stacie’s Thoughts: Honestly, how many players do you see go through practice and drills on “auto-pilot?” How many actually CHOOSE to play their best each day, each rep (even if it’s only practice)?
13. They have clarity and certainty about what they want (and don’t want) for their life. They actually visualise and plan their best reality while others are merely spectators of life.
Stacie’s Thoughts: How many softball players do you know have any clarity or certainty around why they play or what they want out of their softball experience, not just this year, but long term? How many actually visualize or plan anything beyond showing up to the next practice?
14. They innovate rather than imitate.
Stacie’s Thoughts: I think this is a good one for coaches. Too many do something for the sole reason that they saw someone else do it, or saw it work for someone else, or because everyone else thinks it’s a good idea and does it. BUT, what works for YOU and your team THIS season???
15. They don’t procrastinate and they don’t spend their life waiting for the ‘right time’.
Stacie’s Thoughts: This is huge. Too many afraid to even try because they don’t feel “ready” yet. How are you ever going to know if you don’t try? How are you going to learn if you never fail?
Others “can’t” do something well because it’s not the “right” time. If you keep waiting for OUTSIDE circumstances to be perfect before you ever accomplish anything, you’ll wait forever.
Stacie Mahoe shares lessons learned from decades around the diamond. Enjoy her unique insights on softball and life from years as a player, coach, parent, and fan of the game.