Does your daughter focus more the ONE thing she did wrong after a game rather than celebrating all the things she did right? Does she beat herself up after mistakes and stay down in the dumps, unable to get ready for the next play?
Does her failure cause her to lose confidence while stealing her enthusiasm and focus from the task at hand?
Next thing you know, she’s putting more pressure on herself to get it together. Instead of playing relaxed and free, she’s pressing, even in practice. She’s pushing, but not succeeding.
Her frustration is growing. Her effort gets eradic, see-sawing between trying too hard and not trying at all. She’s way off balance.
Nothing is working.
Inconsistent effort, and lack luster practices, lead to disappointing games.
She feels even worse and the cycle starts all over again, feeding upon itself until it gets so out of hand that she finds herself deep in a slump that not even hours and hours of extra work is enough to help her break out of it.
Her discouragement and frustration follow her home.
It spills over into chores, homework, relationships. Her grades are slipping, chores are undone, or poorly done, and you’re reaching the end of your rope too.
Can a coach help “snap her out of it?”
Can you, perhaps, say the right thing at the right time to help her get it together?
But do you know what it feels like when your success and your performance depends on someone else, even after all the work you put in?
It undermines your confidence …
That sense of hopelessness and helplessness is enough to quickly derail any short lived confidence gained through a word of encouragement.
What would happen if the power was back in her hands?
What would happen if she developed the ability to do this for HERSELF more and more often?
How would she FEEL if she knew she was the one in control and knew what she could do to help herself?
How much would it help her if she could bounce back faster, before the cycle gets going?
How much better could she play if she could “let it go” TODAY?
You’d see her hope return with excitement and enthusiasm. It would ignite higher quality practices, more focus, and more effort producing better results on game day which would strengthen HER BELIEF in herself creating an UPWARD cycle of success that feeds upon itself!
But “changing your attitude” is NOT just matter of “flipping a switch,” especially if getting down and being hard on yourself has been your “default” for a while.
Your daughter needs to PRACTICE a new way of thinking, not just sometimes, but consistently, day in and day out.
This is the simple tool that can help her do it …