Is your daughter hard on herself?

Does your daughter focus more the ONE thing she did wrong after a game rather than celebrating all the things she did right? Does she beat herself up after mistakes and stay down in the dumps, unable to get ready for the next play?

Does her failure cause her to lose confidence while stealing her enthusiasm and focus from the task at hand?

Next thing you know, she’s putting more pressure on herself to get it together. Instead of playing relaxed and free, she’s pressing, even in practice. She’s pushing, but not succeeding.

Her frustration is growing. Her effort gets eradic, see-sawing between trying too hard and not trying at all. She’s way off balance.

Nothing is working.

Inconsistent effort, and lack luster practices, lead to disappointing games.

She feels even worse and the cycle starts all over again, feeding upon itself until it gets so out of hand that she finds herself deep in a slump that not even hours and hours of extra work is enough to help her break out of it.

Her discouragement and frustration follow her home.

Maybe it even spills over into chores, homework, relationships.

Can a coach help “snap her out of it?”


Can you, perhaps, say the right thing at the right time to help her get it together?

Of course.

But do you know what it feels like when your success and your performance depends on someone else, even after all the work you put in?

It undermines your confidence …

And if your confidence is slipping, a word of encouragement from others is a temporary reprieve at best.  It still doesn’t solve the underlying issue.

But what would happen if you put the power was back in your daughter’s hands?

What could change if she developed the ability to do this for HERSELF more and more often?

How would she FEEL if she knew she was the one in control and knew what she could do to help herself?

How much would it help her if she could bounce back faster, before the cycle gets going?

How much better could she play if she could “let it go” today?

What would happen if she had hope? And her excitement and enthusiasm for the game returned?

Quality practices … more focus … and and the drive that produces results she can enjoy on game day …

Wouldn’t it be great to see your daughter learn how to bounce back quicker vs seeing her dwelling on everything she did wrong, despite how much she does well?

Then again, “changing a perfectionistic mindset” is NOT just matter of “flipping a switch,” especially if it’s been the “default” for a while.

Developing new skills, new ways of thinking, requires PRACTICE. Often times, it really helps to have some coaching and guidance along the way too.

Whether you’re looking for a way that your daughter can CONSISTENTLY practice, and focus on, getting into a more positive state of mind …


You know you’re ready to invest, not just in her physical skills, but in her mental and emotional skills too …

I’ve got 2 tools for you:

  1. A DIY option in the simple and fun, but highly effective Think Like a Champ Journal. Increase self awareness, shift thoughts/focus, identify simple improvements that can be made consistently for massive results over time <3
    Get it here
  2. One of my favorite tools for getting into the zone and enhancing my mental game … this one comes with a free personal consult with me as well as ongoing group coaching and support. Learn more here and here.

Best wishes to you and your daughter as you travel this road together!

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